Gays of our Lives: You, Me and Him

The Fosters (U.S.)

The world certainly has changed since I was in high school. Kissing your boyfriend in the hallway, holding his hand? I know this happens in real high schools across the country without it being an issue and that’s wonderful.

Kerr Smith brings back some nice Dawson’s Creek memories. He looks yummy with the gray hair.

Tuvak! I haven’t seen that actor in years. I was a huge Star Trek: Voyager fan. Yes, it was my favorite ST tv series. Not ashamed to admit it.

Uhh, is there anybody happy on this show? Everybody is miserable. I think this show is way too heavy on the angst this season.


The Haves and The Have Nots (U.S.)

I’m loving that Jeffrey and Justin are starting to realize that their relationship is more than just sex. I nearly fell over when they (very briefly) kissed before making out and taking their clothes off. That’s more than some TV gay couples get!

But there is no way that bad ass Justin would demand sex from Jeffery by saying ‘make love to me’. No, no, no. Men don’t talk like that to each other. I’m not sure the couples do. That’s such a throwback to old school soap opera with guys and girls. T he show could have gotten their point across without Justin saying something so jarring. Took me right out of the scene.


Rownd a Rownd (Wales)

Oh well, I’m kind of disappointed that Rhys gave in and willingly entered into an affair with David after insisting he wouldn’t be ‘the other man’. At least he knows it’s wrong and that he’s probably making a mistake. I can’t see the affair staying a secret for too long. John and Barry already know and as we see, it’s such a small town, they’ll have a hard time meeting in secret before getting caught.

I kinda feel sorry for Dani, she totally doesn’t deserve to have a gay boyfriend who sleeps with other men. I’m wondering why David insists on staying with Dani. We’ve seen that David really wants to share his life with a man. What’s keeping him with Dani? Is it his job? What?

On a side note, I’m glad that Lilo and Iolo finally broke up. Iolo a bit of an idiot (and he really should do something about those eyebrows), but Lilo’s nagging and whining was so unfair and annoying. He deserves better.


Neighbours (Australia)

So David is starting to realize that maybe pretending to be a baby daddy to hide the fact that he’s gay isn’t such a good idea. I’m glad as this story has dragged on long enough. It would be nice if we had some scenes between David and Aaron to show the feelings between them and make David realize what he’s denying himself.

Speaking of which, why didn’t we get any scenes between David and Aaron after Aaron found that that David was supposedly the father of Paige’s baby? It just seems like a lot of scenes are missing out of this storyline. We know where this story is going. I just feel like a lot of it isn’t being played out on screen.

NEXT PAGE: SPOILERS AND TEASERS!

Tagged:
About the Author

I watch a lot of television, probably too much. But can you really watch too much TV? I've yet to find out. Anyway, I especially love TV when they give us positive portrayals of gays, something that has gotten better but we're still fighting for. I've written about gays in television for many years first at the much missed After Elton, then New Now Next and now at TV Source. It's kind of a passion of mine and I look forward to sharing it with you.

10 comments

  1. People who disagree with you aren’t necessarily trolls (though I suppose they may be too lazy to pick a profile picture.) I did and do love the books. They’re ongoing and have added multiple queer relationships to the story — I have a sense you probably don’t know much about them beyond TMI, if you read that. I’ve read the books multiple times and watched every episode of the show, though admittedly I could never stomach more than a single viewing.

    When I talk about Magnus blackmailing Alec for sex I mean the episode in which Alec asks Magnus to be Isabelle’s lawyer and Magnus says he’ll do it if Alec has sex with him. Alec says no and Magnus accepts Alec’s bow and arrows instead, but that doesn’t erase the offer or make it less cringe-inducing.

    The representation in the books was written twelve years ago, unlike the representation in the show, which is current. What people want from representation actually does change. A character like Alec, a badass warrior who happens to be gay, was unheard of in YA in 2005. As the times have changed, representation in books has changed and Kieran and Mark (in the current Shadowhunters books, which you clearly have not read) are very different than Magnus and Alec. Mark’s is not a coming out story, probably because there have now been many, but at the time Alec was written, there had been very very few in YA fantasy.

    It’s quite funny you said that about bad fanfic since that’s always how I’ve thought of the show — after all, bad fanfic takes original characters written by someone else and twists them! The introduction of Lydia is something I’ve seen in so many bad TMI fics — oh no a bad lady comes between the boys! Oh, Magnus or Alec has to interrupt a wedding where the other one is getting married! Cliché city. :–>

    Look, you’re entirely entitled to your opinion. I understand that the show, despite its poor ratings, has an enthused fan base. I’m merely pointing out an undeniable truth which is that not all queer fans are going to agree with you because we are not all one person. You yourself have problems with the show, so does everyone else here on this article. As for the books, you can say every one of these people http://bit.ly/2l6oPO6 are lying, but it might perhaps be a better idea to agree to disagree than to discount so many legitimate GLBT voices?

  2. People who disagree with you aren’t necessarily trolls (though I suppose they may be too lazy to pick a profile picture.) I did and do love the books. They’re ongoing and have added multiple queer relationships to the story — I have a sense you probably don’t know much about them beyond TMI, if you read that. I’ve read the books multiple times and watched every episode of the show, though admittedly I could never stomach more than a single viewing.

    When I talk about Magnus blackmailing Alec for sex I mean the episode in which Alec asks Magnus to be Isabelle’s lawyer and Magnus says he’ll do it if Alec has sex with him. Alec says no and Magnus accepts Alec’s bow and arrows instead, but that doesn’t erase the offer or make it less unpleasant.

    The representation in the books was written twelve years ago, unlike the representation in the show, which is current. What people want from representation actually does change. A character like Alec, a badass warrior who happens to be gay, was unheard of in YA in 2005. As the times have changed, representation in books has changed and Kieran and Mark (in the current Shadowhunters books, which you clearly have not read) are very different than Magnus and Alec. Mark’s is not a coming out story, probably because there have now been many, but at the time Alec was written, there had been very very few in YA fantasy.

    It’s quite funny you said that about bad fanfic since that’s always how I’ve thought of the show — after all, bad fanfic takes original characters written by someone else and twists them! The introduction of Lydia is something I’ve seen in so many bad TMI fics — oh no a bad lady comes between the boys! :–>

    Look, you’re entirely entitled to your opinion. I understand that the show, despite poor ratings, has an enthused fan base. I’m merely pointing out an undeniable truth which is that not all queer fans are going to agree with you. You yourself have problems with the show, so does everyone else here on this article. As for the books, you can say every one of these people http://bit.ly/2l6oPO6 are lying, but it might perhaps be a better idea to agree to disagree than to discount so many GLBT voices?

  3. I’m sorry but when you say you loved the books but have a problem with the show AND say smth like “the part where Magnus tried to blackmail Alec[…]” it is obvious you are trolling or just have no idea what you are talking about. Magnus and Alec’s relationship in the books was the definition of a bad fanfiction and in no way the representation we need or asked for.

  4. As a queer reader/viewer, I’ve loved the books and found them a blessing. I hate the show and have hated its disrespectful, unpleasant, cringey representation of Magnus and Alec – the part where Magnus tried to blackmail Alec for sex, the entire gross Lydia plot line, the ongoing lack of interest in consent – from the beginning. Just a reminder LGBT readers are not a monolith. We don’t all share the same opinion and we’re clearly not all insulted by the same things. In the books Malec are a gorgeous interracial happy family with two kids and a great life. On the show . . . bleh.

  5. I’m done with Shadowhunters, the books were already an insult for the LGBT community but the show is now obviously following the same pattern. I was optimistic in the first season because the writers were doing a decent job but season 2 has been nothing but a disappointment. It isn’t helping that despite Malec and a few others characters this show has nothing to offer than the usual Mary Sue who saves everyone doing whatever she wants and never listening to anyone. Like seriously this redhead might be the most annoying character in the history of television.

  6. I’m trying to decide whether Shadowhunters is still worth watching. The handling of Magnus/Alec is deeply flawed. I’m skipping past most of Clary’s scenes, and that now includes my favorite Simon. Meanwhile, the Izzy/Raphael scene from last night were super-rapey and will taint all of their interactions going forward.

    I was disappointed that they ignored Aaron’s history with Jackson. The same with JP’s history before the past two or so years.

  7. Gay guys win fights on British soaps all the time. But soaps in general seem to like their women weak/crazy and their gays constantly victimized and relatively sexless. It won’t change until audiences make them change

  8. I am thoroughly enjoying the Rhys and David storyline. At least something is happening between them unlike with Iolo and Tyler (*yawn*). Right now the most gripping stories on PyC are Sioned turning Ed into a boot-licking worm, Sheryl’s alopecia and Jim’s weird-ass shrine to Courtney. And so what if Rhys caved so quickly. How could anyone not with Iestyn Arwel being – and I say this without hyperbole – the most beautiful man to have ever existed in the universe ever. Let the boys have their steamy behind-Dani’s-back fun. It doesn’t hurt that both actors bat for our team.

  9. I am so disgusted by Shadowhunters I can’t even hardly talk about it. They bait the fans of Magnus and Alec all over social media and then shortchange them constantly. And I agree that the double standard will be shown when Clary and Jace eventually get together.

  10. I had precisely the same thoughts about Emmerdale last week. Why couldn’t Emma have simply told Finn her concern that he wasn’t dealing with his father’s death earlier? We didn’t need all the drama with her demonizing – and framing – Kasim. She’s so transparent that I find it unbelievable that her sons (who have only known her for a couple of years) trust her blindly. It will be hard to redeem Finn as a character after this. Surely Kasim regrets ever coming to the village to meet the person who saved him in the accident.

    Also, I was thinking the same thing about Liv. Why wouldn’t she have to go live with her mother? Neither Chas nor Robert (nor Aaron, for that matter) has any legal responsibility for her.

    I agree that leaving won’t solve Lee’s problems, but I never liked how the show never had anyone close to him really try to help. Whitney is enough to drive anyone away, and now it looks like we’ll have to endure some kind of tryst between her and Mick. It makes good drama, I guess, but it really gives me the “ick.” It’s hard to deny they have a chemistry, though, that never existed between her and Lee.

Comments are closed.